Monday, November 30, 2009


i received an actual hand-written letter recently from a friend who went through breast cancer several years ago. she included some advice for me to take--or not. Here are the two pieces of advice that really grabbed my attention:

1.  you need to be entirely selfish during this period. you can go back to your usual ways in a few months.

I like that she thinks my usual way is not entirely selfish.

2.  stay away from support groups. you do not need other people's problems now.

at first i was bemused by that. but then today, a woman called in to WAMU and said that her doctor set her up with a breast cancer support group. the group started with twenty-five members; by the end, all but eight had died.

i don't know how anyone could survive support like that. 

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